13 years ago today, I had just had 24 hours of being a father for the second time. I had become the father of a daughter. The father of a daughter is not the father of a son. Despite what the feminists might tell us, there is still a void of difference between the two. If I listen to the ambient discourse, I have to treat my children the same in the way in the name of sacrosanct equality. This is complete codswallop because, being an only child and becoming the father of two children, I did not know what to do. I thought, well, not that bad back in the day, but little did I know that this was even more codswallop than the concept of equality.
I didn’t realise that I had to deal with two completely different people and although one was still a very tiny person, this young lady would teach me how different it can be. Did I suddenly become overprotective of her? Damned right I did. And still am. And she knows it. So does my son… Ooops a daisy!
Like any man and woman, they are complementary. The same but different, and reflections on my parenting and on my spouse’s parenting. I like them both despite their many qualities and failings. Puberty was easier to deal with when my son was going through it, but my daughter was different. I don’t know if it’s because she’s a girl or just another person. I know that this too will pass, even for her as it has for my son. But with a daughter entering puberty at 100 mph and a wife going through menopause, it’s nice having my son around as some testosterone backup. Before he came back home, there was far too much oestrogen in my house. Things can be a “little intense” at the moment.
As Padre Pio said, and whose feast day it is today, Pray, Hope, and don’t Worry. He lived in a friary and not in my house. He might have said something different had it been the case. Or maybe not. God is great, after all.