Content Note: This post discusses depression and emotional exhaustion. Please read with care.
That was the old Royal Family rule—stoic, impenetrable, forever above it all.
I, alas, am not royalty. I’m an overthinker with a camera and a blog, and I owe you nothing… but I’d like to offer a little explanation anyway. Call it common courtesy. Or perhaps just the need to name what’s been happening.
So here’s the situation report from IJM Photography.
I haven’t written in a month for two reasons.
First: the season. If you’ve followed this space for a while, you know I’ve long wrestled with melancholy—especially as the days shorten. This year, it hit harder than usual. I made it through November, but only just. By December, I was physically and mentally exhausted.
Second: my health. After a conversation with my manager and HR, I was referred to the médecin du travail. She diagnosed me with dépression aiguë—acute depression (not the cute, Hello Kitty kind)—and noted a heart murmur. Frankly, I was relieved to have a name for what I’d been carrying.
She ordered me to go straight home—not back to work—and to see my GP the next day. She mentioned my brain chemistry was “in a bit of a mess.” Which, in its odd way, reminded me of three things:
- — I have a brain
- — I have a heart
- — and I am profoundly tired
Not broken. Just worn thin.
I was referred to the local Centre Médico-Psychologique. There, I broke another unspoken rule: when the nurse asked how I was, I didn’t say, “Fine, thanks.” I told the truth—calmly, factually, without blame—about the weight I’d been under since returning to work after my accident, and how even the resilience I’d inherited from past generations suddenly felt out of reach.
To my surprise, a session with a psychiatrist opened up right away. He was kind, thoughtful. We talked about identity, belonging, and the quiet strain of straddling cultures. He said I carry “the mindset of an immigrant”—and that perhaps I’ve become more French than I realize. He suggested working on communication with my spouse, and that a trip back to the UK might help me reconnect with myself.
He might be right. If funds were no object, I’d book the ticket tomorrow.
For now, I’m taking things one day at a time. Resting. Recharging. And slowly returning—to my camera, to my words, to myself.
Thank you for waiting.
— IJM
Remember to take your time Sir and be nice to yourself. All the best from Yorkshire
Dave
Sometimes we forget don’t we…
Thank you for sharing x
my pleasure…
As someone who has also struggled with depression, I send you best wishes for a recovery that will help you through the dark days. It’s a challenge, but sounds like you have good support system. Take care, Ian.
It could always be worse and it was…
All the best. Keep going, your own path. ☀️✋
I just keep going – it’s a good start…
We may all be a little exhausted from “hanging on by the skin of our teeth.” We’ve been weathering Maximum radiation storms from the Sun. The influence can raise our blood pressure and upset our sense of balance. I just keep going too, and take lots of winter naps. Praying you are restored by the Light.
I am trying to sleep most of all. I need it. The osteopath helped put my knee back into place which helps.. Definitely worth doing.
Dear Ian J Myers, we really sometimes forget ourselves.. We think so much, we work so much and all thoughts, feelings, etc. make a big mountain in our mind. Last Summer I found myself in depression and emotional exhaustion. It wasn’t easy times for me. But I was luck about to find a good doctor, with medication and theraphy I am fine now. Just I don’t make myself so tired as before and not to think so much, I am sure this situation for you too will pass soon. Be help yourself. And take a rest especially rest your mind… My best wishes and praying, Love, nia
It will pass but I’ve never been closer to it not passing…..
It will pass,.. just takes time.
Thank you for sharing this
If ever it can help, even if just let’s somebody know they’re not alone… and yes it can happen….